1) Why Seek Counseling?|
People seek counseling help for a variety of reasons. Most are feeling overwhelmed by their current situation. Naturally, this springs from unique sources, some current and some anchored in the past. Counseling can provide support, problem-solving skills and enhanced coping for:
- College Adjustment
- Argument with a roommate or partner
- Family problems
- Financial problems
- Sexual Identity
- Rape/Sexual Assault or Stalking
- Grief/Loss of a loved one
- Sadness, loneliness, or depression
- Stress, Anxiety, Panic attacks
- Conflict Resolution
- Anger Management
- Post-military civilian life
- and much more....
2) What Can I Expect In Counseling?
Counseling is a growth process through which individuals are helped to define goals, make decisions, and solve problems related to personal, social, educational, and career concerns.
3) What Are Some of the Warning Signs of Distress or Suicide?
- Sudden or dramatic changes in behavior that you find disturbing or out of character
- References to suicide, including off the cuff remarks or jokes
- Changes in mood or behavior
- Anxiety and/or depression
- Psychosomatic symptoms, including loss of appetite or excessive eating, insomnia or excessive sleeping, gastrointestinal distress, tension headaches, nausea or unexplained pain
- Dramatic changes in personal relationships, including death of a loved one, parental divorce, difficulties in family relationships, change in family finances, unsatisfying end to a romantic relationship
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Learning problems
- Sexual assault
4) How Do I Help Someone?
Having an emotionally troubled friend can be upsetting. You may feel worried, frustrated, unsure of what you can do to be helpful. The following are steps to helping someone in need:
Step 1: Open Up a Conversation
If your friend shows signs of emotional trouble and you think your friend might be willing to talk about it, try opening up a conversation.
Usually the best approach is to say something like this: "I've noticed you've seemed upset lately. I was wondering if you'd like to talk about what's bothering you."
Whether or not you choose to initiate this conversation depends on several things. It's possible your friend won't accept your attempts to be helpful or will down-play the troublesome issues. On the other hand, your friend might appreciate your interest and concern. This conversation may be an important step toward your friend doing something about the problems.
Step 2: Be a Good Listener
Try to understand your friend's feelings and problems from your friend's point of view. Be as genuinely supportive as you can, and let your friend know you understand what he or she is saying.
Step 3: Suggest Counseling
If your friend needs more help than you can give by listening and understanding, suggest that coming to the Counseling Center might be helpful. Gently remind your friend that the Counseling Center is here to provide confidential help to NCCU students with problems like your friend's.
While gentle persuasion to visit the Counseling Center is OK, being judgmental and pressuring your friend will probably be counterproductive.
If you want other ideas on how you might approach your friend or support in dealing with your friend's problems, consider scheduling a "consultation" at the Counseling Center for yourself. Call us anytime to schedule an appointment at 919-530-7646